Celibacy no more

Recently I had sex. I've missed sex for a long time. Now that I've had my itch scratched, I crave more. Those who have spoken to me know I'm a highly sexual person. Those who've experienced me know that that is an understatement. I enjoy sex...a lot. It's the act of sex which I enjoy. I'd rather fuck for 4 hours and not orgasm at all than have sex for 20 minutes ending with a great orgasm.

So, why did I stop having sex last year? Simple: to put an end to the drama in my life. Huh? Without a sexual partner, nobody was close enough to create drama for me. If someone tried, I'd just walk away.

How is now different? After removing the drama from my life and getting sober (14 months now!) I see the world clearly again. I know what I want out of life and what I don't. Just because sex is great isn't a good enough reason to date someone. I am not ready to be in a relationship with anyone and I'm also not a casual sex kind of girl...

Here are the only reasonable options I have been able to come up with to stay single AND get laid regularly:

(1) I could have a long-term fuck buddy. = I already have one and he is fun (will happily refer for hot females). He has been my default go-to guy for several years whenever I've been single (although obviously not during my celibacy stint).... He lives far away and never pressures me. Unfortunately, his availability is limited. Finding a quality replacement would be tough.

(2) I could be a porn star. = I have given this serious consideration. Fuck buddy sex is meaningless fun. Becoming a porn star would also bring fame and fortune. And since the sex would be for work, it wouldn't feel casual. Not to mention I have a lot of friends in this industry; if I decide to go this route it'll be easy.

(3) I could escort. = This is another scenario I have thought a lot about. My libido can easily handle four times per day. Escorting would combine the pros of having a fuck buddy (non-committal drama-free sex) with the pros of being a porn star (lots of cash with sex being justified as work). From working as a stripper and being an escort client for much of my adult life, I understand this business reasonably well. Realistically, I worry I'd get addicted to having sex so often and enjoy it entirely too much.

AVN is in a few months. I have a lot to think about....

Mars is in Sagittarius for the next 6 weeks

On October 27-28, Mars the planet of action and passion moves into fiery Sagittarius for a sojourn until December 7, 2010.

Suddenly, all bets are off and what had been kept firmly under wraps, stored away in private places and hidden by Mars in Scorpio will come flashing out in the open. Sagittarius, ruled by Jupiter, has a wonderful directness and enthusiasm about it. It is ever the sunny optimist. It encourages, it motivates, and it boosts our morale. It is also known for speaking its mind and is possibly the most honest sign of the zodiac. Discretion and tact are not Sagittarian virtues!

Action-oriented Mars gets a tremendous boost with all this inspirational energy and turns into a crusading fireball. Be prepared for things to get noisy over the coming weeks as strong opinions get voiced and heated discussions take place. However, there will be no lingering bad feelings or bitterness left, regardless of how strong the storm blows. The Fire energy holds no grudges -- it speaks its mind and moves on!

The time is right to inject more adventure into your life, double up on your sports and exercise regimes. This is the time to start thinking of the coming holidays and decide how to best spend your money -- wisely. This is also the time to start dreaming and planning for your next escape and getaway!

But, most importantly -- this is the time to speak your mind and be truthful!

Mars in Sagittarius will give you the courage to get your ideas and comments aired to a wider audience than usual. This is not the time to whisper your plans, dreams and ideas hesitantly in a loved one's ears -- this is the time to get out your megaphone and shout it from the rooftops! At least, you will be assured that you will get heard where it matters most. The forces of the cosmos are with you!

Source: Astrology.com email

Drama-free sex

Is has been said that a woman knows within the first 5 minutes whether or not she will have sex with you. This is not accurate. The reality is that a woman knows right away when she will NOT have sex with you. Otherwise, you go into a "Yes" or "Maybe" category. The immediate Yes list usually requires exceptional looks or tons of money. Expect it to take a lot of time and energy to turn a Maybe into a Yes. All the while, at any time you can screw up and re-categorize yourself to No. Once you're a No, that is permanent. It is a slippery line and you rarely get status updates.

If a woman does have sex with you, you are now on "the list". This means that whenever she gets horny in the future, she'll often choose from her list instead of a random new guy. Why? Two reasons: (1) Most women don't want to raise their number of partners; and (2) Sexual skill isn't as common as one would hope. For every 10 guys you have sex with, one may stand out as amazing in bed. It's always a gamble. This makes the repeat sexual encounter with a partner you've already been with, even if casual, much more enticing.

Where guys screw this up
If you've had sex with a woman in the past and she decides to fuck you again, appreciate it for what it is and DO NOT turn it into something it isn't just to continue getting laid. If both of you really like each other and want a relationship, great! To be sure, this should be discussed prior to sex--not in a post-coital afterglow.

If you were not a good "couple", don't entertain the fantasy of getting back together!! Approach the new sex as a fuck buddy situation and be grateful she chose you. Unfortunately, too many men think the woman will not choose him again if he is honest about this. If she already did, she is cool with sex-only with you and will respect you more for being upfront and not toying with her emotions. Soak it up, enjoy, and don't fuck up the scenario.

Pretending to want anything more (if you don't) is an invitation for heartbreak and drama. On the flip side if you want to see her more, after you've had sex is the time to bring it up. I say after because if she doesn't feel the same, discussing during will ruin the sex for her and will put you in the future No category. Pay attention to the signs; it's easy to figure out if she wants more. Honesty here is always respected.

Getting on the list - Staying on the list
So, you don't want a relationship but you want to have sex? As most guys know, getting in isn't always simple. To make it worse, it's easy for a Maybe to turn himself into a No. Believe it or not, most guys are pushy or come off as desperate, possibly without even realizing it. This rarely works. When it does the girl either feels date raped or she gave you a one-time pity fuck (if you are lucky).

Be fun. Women like to have fun. Make it clear upfront that you don't like drama but you do like to play (this could be a general statement, it shouldn't put her on the spot). The guy who shows interest in his actions without constantly bringing it up or being pushy has the greatest chance of becoming her next Yes.

Once there, to be her future go-to man, make sure you put on a performance in bed. If you fuck her brains out, she will call you again and again. Relationship not needed.

Krukid / A.R.M.

The flights back from Europe were hectic. Wow. It took sheer determination and stamina for me to run through the St. Paul Minneapolis airport with all my luggage to make my flight back to Vegas. On this last flight, I expected to sleep. When I first sat down I was still coughing from having all the air expelled from my lungs as I ran from gate to gate. After catching my breathe and drinking a bottle of water, instead of napping I enjoyed a great 4 hour conversation with the rapper sitting next to me.



Krukid is a real African-American. Really--he moved to the States from Uganda!
He was in Minneapolis for business.



The conversation was fun and the flight flew by (pun intended). We exchanged information before leaving the airport. I am proud to call Krukid my newest friend.
Not only does he have a lot of talent, he is also extremely intelligent, well-spoken, and polite...and one of the better people I've met in Vegas. :)



The new album, 2 Africans and a Jew, is available for MP3 download. Click below:

Today is 10/10/10

What did you do to celebrate? I went to Monaco and saw the real Monte Carlo Casino. Afterward I picked up a cool (and cute!) Hungarian hitchhiker and drove him to Marseille. GREAT DAY!!!! :-D

Milan, Italy

Saw this on Italy's Yahoo: http://it.notizie.yahoo.com/46/20101007/video/vwl-usa-turista-filma-le-minacce-di-un-a-df14a31.html. Shameful....


To bring happiness to this post, Duomo is gorgeous!





Picture taken today:


And if course, Tiramisu from a nearby cafe:


I love Italy. Seriously, I could live here.

Do I have any wealthy Italian fans interested in an open marriage..?

As many of you may know, I am in Europe for a business trip.

Oktoberfest 2010 was absolutely a once in a lifetime experience (this was the 200th year). Can you believe they actually had a non-alcohol beer option? Pretty tasty too! And the Devil's Wheel ride (game?) is a MUST!! Oktoberfest may become a yearly event for me.



So far I have been to Spain, France, Switzerland, Germany, and the Czech Republic. What an adventure! Once I return back home and have time I will post a few more pictures. :)

Beers

MGD 64

64 calories
2 g carbohydrates
2.8% alcohol


It’s right on the bottle: Only 64 calories. And it claims the number one spot over Beck’s Premier Light because it’s a little lower in alcohol content. And that’s the politically correct choice, right?




Michelob Ultra

95 calories
3 g carbohydrates
4.2% alcohol



Michelob was one of the first to market a “low-carb” beer. But here’s a secret: Almost all the low-calorie brews are relatively close in carb count. (Sam Adams Light and Yuengling Lager Light are the notable exceptions.) Just look at the label. Which is exactly what you should be doing for anything you eat and drink.


Guinness Draught

126 calories
10 g carbohydrates
4% alcohol


Perhaps the most surprising beer on this list. The great taste of Guinness but with a calorie-count in the range of a light beer.

30 Roses

Empathy

Empathy = relating to and understanding another person's feelings.

Going on stage

Burning Man

Burning Man was again awesome! For anyone who hasn't been, look into it. It can be whatever you want it to be. For many it is a week-long party. For me it is a healing retreat.




Since I am nearby, I will be dancing at the Wild Orchid again September 8th-18th. :)

Kegels

These women recommend doing kegel exercises by pushing ice out of the vagina.



My comment was: "Lol, I also used to shoot items across the room! However, the act of pushing out like that actually weakens your pelvic muscles. It's a cool trick but important to do a lot of additional proper kegels to compensate. Proper kegels are pulling up and in--like when you have to pee and are holding it (before using the bathroom, not while stopping midstream--it's different)."


This woman gave good advice:

Don't Drown Your Food

Vampires Suck

When it comes to love movies--I enjoy the traditional boy/girl not vampire/prey. Which is why I watched the first Twilight movie but not the rest.

This movie is a comedy, though, so I may go see it:



(Yes, I have a warped sense of humor. This is a VERY MILD example.)

1 year = no alcohol

It has now been a FULL YEAR since I quit drinking!!
My life has changed dramatically.
All for the best!


I'd love for someone to buy me this shirt. *wink*

Undress Yourself - Madonna Parody

4 year relationships

I've been searching for my life partner--someone who will be "Mr. Right" forever. Is this just an illusion? Many people only stay together for life because they have children or financial ties and not because they are happily in love.
This isn't encouraging.

"Four years after getting married, about 10% are as happy as when they first got married--90% are not. Twenty to thirty years later it continues to go down." -- This Emotional Life, part 1.

My longest relationship was four years and my average is three.

If I change my outlook on relationships to just sharing a wonderful few years with someone before moving on, would that be so bad? Could it be healthier?

Tolerance would be lower, enjoyment higher. Expectations would change.
Accepting that relationships are meant to be temporary creates happier times together and less stress. No more sticking it out super-gluing a failing relationship. No disrespect. Relationships would be complimentary. People wouldn't allow themselves or their partner to fall apart. No compromising of yourself for your partner. When the relationship is no longer synergistic, breaking up would be logical and wouldn't cause hard feelings. Both people move on in whatever way that continues making them happy and remain friends.

With this adapted foundation, flourishing relationships may even have long term possibilities. Hmmmm, I will have to give this some more serious thought.

Duck Face

Why do some women do this?!?       *sigh*



A perfect example is Bri Baby on Myspace. She's totally hot...but almost all of her pics have the Duck Face pose. :-(     She'd be so much prettier with a smile.


For what it's worth, this applies to just about everyone. Your pics are your pics. Smile! Look friendly and attractive! Don't embarrass yourself or others.

Have you heard the Mel Gibson tapes yet?

Here's the link: http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2010/07/exclusive-audio-listen-all-mel-gibson-tapes-here

From listening to them it is clear that Mel is abusive and unbalanced. However, I do believe that we are only hearing snippets because Oksana is pushing his buttons and getting him to the breaking point. That is no excuse for Mel, though. A real man won't act that way.

Narcissists look like men, have penises, do "man chores", yet are only a shell. They believe normal rules do not apply to them and are incapable of having feelings for anyone else. Shockingly 5% of men are narcissists--that's 1 out of every 20! Mel isn't a man; he's a narcissist who cannot see beyond himself. He doesn't even know what he's missing. Sad..