The dos and don'ts of internet dating

When people decide to use the internet to find a potential partner, many don't know what to do. It's easier than you might think! Here is your short guide: 1) Have a detailed profile. One of the biggest mistakes men often make is not writing enough. There are a disproportionate amount of men on dating sites, so most women get bombarded with attention. Unless your profile says something to stand out and spark interest, most women won't waste their time responding. Also, have a positive tone to your profile; negative comments are a turn off. Writing a quality profile is an investment. 2) The goal is to meet in person, so upload at least one photo. This should go without saying, but sadly many people mess this up so I'll spell it out: THE PHOTO SHOULD BE OF YOU, representative of what you currently look like, and recent!! If someone chooses to meet you after seeing your pics, then your looks are good enough. :)   Using a non-accurate photo says you are dishonest, and most likely will cause your date to be dissapointed in your appearance. In the comment fields it is always good to list the month and year that each picture was taken. 3) Be honest. No matter who you are and what you're looking for, there is someone for everyone. Being honest is essential to finding the most compatible person for you. 4) Smile in your pictures. This is the #1 thing I look for. When a man doesn't smile in his photos, he doesn't seem like a happy person or fun to spend time with. Taking happy photos will bring you better luck. ** Six months ago I took pictures of a friend of mine for his online dating profile. Before that, he never smiled for photos which made him look grumpy/older in his pics. Needless to say, he got little response. A geeky smile--or any kind of unnatural smile--is always more inviting than a non-smile. :)  The way I took new smile pictures was to have my camera ready and I snapped photos whenever he laughed. It took a weekend to get a few good ones, but afterward he had much better dating luck and now has a girlfriend! 5) If you initiate contact with someone, write at least a couple paragraphs. I know, some people are rude and don't reply. However, you are looking for a new PARTNER here, so spend at least a couple minutes to show you're interested. Bring up something specific from their profile that makes you think the two of you will be compatible. Rule of thumb: your message should always be a minimum of 300 characters. Realistically, double the length of a text message or tweet. Sending anything shorter screams "You are not worthy of my time." 6) Reply to all messages that you receive. This one is sometimes tough, especially if you get a lot of messages. However, even a "Thank you for your message, but I am not interested" goes a long way. 7) For the men, always be a gentlemen! It seems few actually know what this means anymore (very sad). Here's a link to remind/teach you: http://www.askmen.com/money/successful/41b_success.html Good luck! Everyone deserves to find that special someone who makes them happy.  :)

"Hot blonde stripper looking for a female "friend with benefits" - Las Vegas"

I have been trying to place an ad on Match.com for the past few days. It seems that everything is considered explicit. I should have posted my original ad here. It was the raciest. It's against Match.com's policy to place an ad just looking for sex. How silly is that?


My first try went something like this:

I'm an attractive blonde stripper seeking another very attractive lady for adult play. I am not looking for anything serious, just something fun and casual. Let's experiment! I am fit and have a very voluptuous curvy figure. You should be gorgeous! Even though I've been with a lot of women, I still consider myself an amateur and would love to have a single girlfriend to gather quality experience and learn more from. There's no such thing as too much practice!

After NUMEROUS edits, I'm still getting disqualifying emails:

Thanks for submitting your profile. We’re currently unable to publish your submission because a portion of what you wrote violates our Terms of Use http://www.match.com/registration/membagr.aspx.

Your profile contains:

· Telephone numbers, street addresses, first and/or last names, URLs and/or email addresses
· Sexually explicit material of any kind (descriptions of body parts, sexual acts, etc.)
· Patently offensive language (promotes racism, bigotry, etc)
· Solicitation of business opportunities
· Solicitation of “escort” type services
· Reference to inflicting bodily injury to yourself/others

I'm an attractive blonde seeking another very attractive lady who's interested in going out and having fun. I am not looking for a really serious relationship, just a something fun and casual. Let's experiment! I am fit and have a very voluptuous curvy figure. You should be gorgeous! I consider myself an amateur and would love to have a single girlfriend to gather quality experience and learn more from.

Here is my most recent edit (may still get rejected):

I'm an attractive blonde seeking another very attractive lady who's interested in going out dancing, shopping, and who knows.... I am fit and have a very curvy figure. You should be gorgeous! I'm a stripper and would prefer a lady with similar lifestyle. Let's have fun!

My photos keep being rejected too:

We apologize but at this time we are unable to add the photo you submitted to your profile. Please submit another photo or crop yours to meet the following guidelines:

FOR YOUR PRIMARY PHOTO
- Your face must be visible (no sunglasses, both eyes must be visible)
- No nudity, sheer or otherwise "see-through" material
- No drawings, caricatures or other illustrations
- No copyrighted images

FOR OTHER PHOTOS
- No nudity, sheer or otherwise "see-through" material
- No copyrighted images

We will not post any photo we feel is too suggestive or explicit.


It's amazing. Even a bra that covers more than a bikini top is considered too suggestive! How am I supposed to find a casual girlfriend without sexy pics?


My 4th pic just got denied. I hope with the tame ad and boring pic I'll have to put up I don't attract a lesbian looking for a serious relationship. I don't want that at all......



Grrrrrrrr...... They just switched my heading to read "Hot blonde looking for a female - Las Vegas"

That is much different than my original "Hot blonde stripper looking for a female "friend with benefits" - Las Vegas". It sounds like I don't have any standards.. I switched it to "Gorgeous Hot Model looking for same - Las Vegas". Hopefully that stays. This is so tough!