Regrets

Don't become old with regrets. These are the most common:

1)  I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2)  I wish I didn’t work so hard.
3)  I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4)  I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5)  I wish that I had let myself be happier.

If you can see yourself at risk for any of them, make changes now while you still can.

None of the above apply to me. :)       Not many people can say that. Seriously, I have very few regrets in life, and they are trivial. Don't misinterpret this to mean I haven't made mistakes; I certainly have. Life is a learning experience. However, I carefully weigh my choices in advance so that I don't regret them--even when the end result is undesirable.

My first real regret was not seeing the band, Snot, when I had the chance (shortly afterward, the singer died). Another regret was not loaning money to someone who was important to me. Nothing could be worse than regretting you weren't a better friend or partner, so I now give myself fully to situations/people I involve myself with.

When confronted with two choices, both tough, I think "Which would I regret NOT doing more, despite the outcome?" That's all I need to know to make my decision!   :)

My method requires deep self-knowledge and the ability to be completely honest with yourself. If that is too difficult for you, here is a another way:

“When faced with two choices, simply toss a coin. It works not because it settles the question for you, but because, in that brief moment with the coin is in the air, you suddenly know what you are hoping for.”

Karebears

April 20th is a day that stoners across the world celebrate because 420 is the "code word" for smoking marijuana. Even when I still smoked weed, 4/20 was a day that I took off from smoking. For me, it doesn't symbolize pot--today is the anniversary of when my little sister died.

While I have always been bright, she was much smarter than me. A true genius and very charismatic. When she was sixteen years old, she was the top telemarketer for a major company and earned $40,000/year working part-time. She started the GLBT student union at her high school. She went to the national finals for her school's mock attorney debate team. She had a 4.0. She was a stock broker at 21. Her accomplishments are too numerous for me to list.

We were rivals from birth. As we grew up, I playfully referred to her as "the bad sister" and she called me "mweanie" in return. I loved her dearly but, due to the competitive nature of our relationship, I could never express it. That is one of the few regrets in my life.



I knew when my 40 days of Lent started that today would be the big challenge. *sigh* Tomorrow would've been the last day, and today I masturbated twice. Doh! Was it because I am stressed with grief? Or because I went on a date yesterday and didn't even get a kiss? 39 days is still damn good, though, so I'm not too disappointed with myself. Next year I will do this again. :)

Kacey Jordan's betrayal of her client, Charlie Sheen

Charlie liked to hire hookers. On my 22nd birthday I hired my first hooker and have done so many times since, so this makes sense to me. Hiring hookers isn't as much about the sex as it is paying for the woman to leave afterward. Really.
It is paying for fun without any drama. Simple. No late night phone calls, no stalkers, no regrets.

There is a big difference between a private hookup and paid sex.
Paid sex implies discretion.

Kacey Jordan gives hookers everywhere a bad name. As "paid entertainment" she should NOT have went to the media. Charlie Sheen even overpaid her fee several times over. Instead of being appreciative, she's choosing to blab everything to the entire world. Hopefully all of her other clients have taken notice and stopped seeing her. She is a disgrace to the whole industry.

Worst Sin

Usually betrayal is where you believe someone is one way yet later find out they were lying, "wearing a mask" for you, or have multiple personalities.

That is why I love this video. Since I haven't seen the movie from which it was compiled, the words and images perfectly portray betrayal.




Someone I know once said that betrayal is the worst thing in the world. At the time I assumed he meant betrayal by another person and openly disagreed by saying "regretting not doing what you truly want to do" is the worst thing. We were both right. Betrayal is the worst.....yet betraying your true self is much worse than betrayal from another.

The Worst Thing In Life

If you want to do something, follow your instinct and do it while you still can!! Regret for something you did not do is the WORST type. Uncertainty and doubt can haunt for a lifetime, lowering self-esteem and worth, and is so easy to avoid by just being yourself. Don't get stuck wondering "what if..."

Let your individuality shine by consciously choosing how to behave, react, and live each new day. Never cheat yourself out of being you.

Every choice you make should reflect who you are. If negative or undesired result, it's still better to experience the bad in all its glory than to forever idolize what "might have been..." Be true to yourself.

If you regret something you did, learn from it. Humans make mistakes. Give yourself slack. Remember: you can only change the future--never the past.

DON'T regret your actions. For better or worse, they celebrate your unique existance! Be yourself, trust your choices, and don't look back. You're worth it!