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Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Saving America & Preventing World War III

Generally I try to avoid talking about politics with this blog. However, this is too important to stand by and not speak up. Going to war with Iran is not only costly (both in money and lives), but would likely collapse the entire world's economy. ...And that is thinking positively. Realistically, it would be World War 3.



Really think about this.. Who would side with us? Isreal, maybe England, and the Gulf States. Who would side with Iran? China, Russia, Pakistan, and the former Soviet states.

If we have a ground war, we put the 100,000 U.S. troops at risk. They would be trapped in Afghanistan unless we can air lift them out. If it goes nuclear, the world is over. The United States is the only country in history to ever use nuclear weapons. If we did that again, it wouldn't matter that Iran doesn't have nukes--their allies do.



Ron Paul is the only presidential candidate who will not lead us into World War III. The other candidates have very publicly stated in the debates that they think going to war with Iran is a good idea. Obama has already shown that he was not worthy of the Nobel Peace Prize by keeping us in Afghanistan and Iraq for 3 years and initiating proxy wars with Yemen, Somalia, and Libya. In addition, Obama has already invaded Iran's airspace (an act of war). We need to focus on our own country and stop trying to control the rest of the world.

"We have enough time taking care of things back here at home, where we have 50 million people without healthcare, 14 million people who are out of work, millions of people who are losing their homes, and we're going to tell the Iranians how to run their country! Are you kidding me!"

I travel abroad a lot. In much of the world, the United States is not seen in the same good light Americans believe about their country. Instead, there have been lots of parallels drawn between Nazi Germany and the recent United States! How could this be, you may ask? Think about it. Since WW2 ended, the U.S. and Russia were the two superpowers until the Soviet Union collapsed, and then the United States took over as the world bully. We have invaded numerous countries (without ever making a legal declaration of war--as required by the Constitution)--and, since the War Powers Act, we have been in a constant state of war. When we declared "The War on Terror" in 2001, we left the definition so open to be never-ending. This is what the world sees.

The Patriot Act is very similar to Germany's Enabling Act. The Enabling Act didn't grant as much authority to the executive as the PATRIOT Act, but it was enough to allow a dictatorship to form. The National Defense Authorization Act for 2012 (NDAA), which Obama just signed into law, is also very similar to Germany's Reichstag Fire Decree (which nullified many of the key civil liberties of German citizens). We have crossed the line and it keeps getting worse.



No matter what your political beliefs are, this next election is more than just Republican vs Democrat, gun rights, taxes, and the other normal issues. This next election could make the difference between the U.S. staying a world power or collapsing!! We need massive changes to stop spending money overseas, reduce our multi-trillion dollar deficit, and reinstate our civil liberties. We have already lost many rights. Most of the candidates see nothing wrong with this and want to continue it. History repeats itself. We need to learn from the past to save our future.

Now is the time to take action. Obama cannot be trusted--he has already proven that he is willing to lead us into war and was directly responsible for signing the NDAA. Register as a Republican so you can vote in the primaries. To make a difference, you must make a stand now.

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This is the kind of disaster that would be easy to spot in hindsight. And it's easy to spot now with open eyes. Vote for Ron Paul. Stand up for America!

Friday, January 6, 2012

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Random Acts of Kindness

Random acts of kindness make the world a better place. It doesn't take much. Make it your New Year's resolution to practice at least one random act of kindness per week. You will be a better person for it. So will those people you encounter. :)

Saturday, December 31, 2011

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Quitting stripping


If you truly want to quit stripping, follow these instructions:

Figure out how much money you need to survive without any luxuries. This means rent/utilities/groceries/car only. No eating out, no drugs or alcohol, no shopping for items other than the most basic essentials. This bare-bones amount will be much less than you expected. Save up enough for 6 months.

To prevent spending your savings, pre-pay your rent/mortgage and car payments, purchase money orders for future utility payments, and buy gift cards for the rest (gas, groceries, etc). Once you have done this, quit stripping completely (no part-time) and find a "normal" job that will cover your most basic expenses. The buffer you have saved up will be "insurance" to keep you from stressing out during the transition period. Try not to rely on any of the buffer money, but if you need to that is why it's there. Within a few months you should be adjusted to the difference in money and living a happy non-stripper life!

Seeing how easily money comes to others makes it more difficult to live poor. Maintaining your stripper friendships could tempt you back into the life...same with having drug/alcohol/shopping addictions. If you are serious about quitting, be prepared to give all of these things up.


Mental health is worth more than anything you can buy. If you're doing something that you feel is betraying yourself--no matter what it is--get out!


Why I quit stripping
Since I love being part of the sex industry, my reasons were very different: (1) the excitement was fading, & (2) I began dating.

Back in 2004, I quit a six-figure job to become a stripper. To say I was "dancing" wouldn't be accurate because, even though I incorporated dance moves, men only paid because my clothes came off too. It was a fantasy come true for me and I really enjoyed myself. When it became more work than fun, I stopped and went back to the mainstream world.

Stripping was never "just a job" for me; I got off on it. Therefore, ethically it felt inappropriate for me to continue while involved with someone. Both stripping and relationships are too personal for me to compartmentalize.

I know I am different than most women. My motivations, opportunities, my rationale... However, it's still difficult for me to understand how a woman could subject herself to this field if she doesn't enjoy it. Yes, the earning potential can be high--but for those who don't find it pleasurable, the skin industry messes them up. I've seen too many good people destroy themselves for money.

Lots of people find my blog from "how to quit stripping" internet searches. Assuming these are strippers who hate their jobs, feel trapped, and desperately want to find a way out, than this blog offers the solution. All it requires is the desire to change your life and the tenacity to follow through.

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Goal setting for the new year

Hugnation is always very "feel good" and incredibly positive.
Today I sat in on a session about goal setting.     :)

1) Avoid goals that cause you stress.
2) Go towards things you want--not away from those you don't.
3) Make things present tense.
4) Make sure it's something you believe can happen.
5) Include things you are already doing.
6) Make sure it feels good.
7) Align your goals with your higher self.
8) Let go of your attachments.

HugNation broadcasts LIVE every Tues @ 1pm PST!


Take a few moments with Halcyon to recalibrate and remember that the world would far rather hug you than hurt you.

Sunday, December 25, 2011

Friday, December 16, 2011

The Voice Of Knowledge

The Voice Of Knowledge is the third book in a series by Don Miguel Ruiz. I'm finally getting around to reading it. :)

Here are some quotes:

"One little lie can be very contagious, spreading its seeds from person to person when we share it with others."

"The meaning of the word sin is 'to go against.' Everything that we say, everything that we do against ourselves is a sin."

"The result of believing in truth is goodness, love, happiness. When you live your life in truth, you feel good, and your life is wonderful. ... Believing in lies creates all the injustice, all of the violence and abuse, all of the suffering, not only in society but also in the individual."

"If you have no doubt about what you believe, then for you it is truth, even though it may be a lie."

"It's not important to be right or make others wrong. You know whatever they believe is just their point of view. It has nothing to do with you."

"And if I'm with somebody who tells me how good I am, that person can manipulate my life so easily because I need that recognition."

"I have an image of myself that I believe when I'm all alone, and I project different images around other people, depending on what I want them to believe about me."

"When we discover we are not what we believe we are, the foundation of our entire reality begins to collapse."

"You project what you want me to believe about you, and I modify it depending on what I believe. Now I am sure that you are what I believe you are. I might say, 'I know you,' when the truth is that I don't know you at all. I only know the story I create about you."

"We have a tendency to distort everything we perceive to make it agree with what we already believe; we 'fix it' to make it agree with our lies."

The first two books-- The Four Agreements and The Mastery of Love--are both excellent. This box set is the most valuable set of books I own for improving one's self and mastering a healthy view on relationships.

If you're ready to buy the three-book box set, instead of going to a bookstore, you can save over $20 by purchasing them as a package through this link!!

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

I am officially no longer single.


It's as if I wrote the "My Ideal Partner" list to describe him. Maybe I did...
We have known each other for a long time. He is a good man, open-minded, kind, non-jealous, loves me for me, and helps me grow. This means, I am retired. If I go back to the adult business in the future, it will only be with his encouragement and blessing. This is real, I am in love, and happy.


Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Many Peoria guys have requested I make a return trip.

Unfortunately, last night management of Big Al's told me that they no longer allow traveling strippers. Considering I've been well liked each time I've been there and even brought everyone gifts on my last trip, it surprised me greatly that this manager said no and wouldn't make an exception. What this means is that whenever I travel out to the midwest, Peoria will no longer be a place to see me. Sorry guys..

* Should you wind up there anyway, look up Izzy. She is a super hot 21 year old black goddess.   ;)

Friday, September 2, 2011

Sober over 2 years


From working as a Vegas stripper, I could out-drink 4 big men in a row. My party days were intense. Seriously. I was drinking 30-40 shots of Patron per night (yes, alcohol poisoning several times per week). In addition to that, I was also smoking 6 ounces of weed per month. During my extreme low I even took Valium, Xanax, and snorted powder.. Yeah, I was a party girl.

Then I decided to change my life.


Really. It was that simple. I quit....and I haven't been tempted to lapse.
I enjoy sober life (Mocktails and all!).

It is amazing how many of my dreams have come true since. During this time I took classes and passed certification exams for A+, Networking+, and Security+! In addition, I've taken numerous trips outside the US including: Costa Rica, Panama, Spain, France, Italy, Austria, Slovenia, Czech Republic, Germany, and Switzerland. It's been a full-on self-improvement journey--taking care of myself in every way. Truly happy.       :)       :)



Life is getting better and better all the time!! :)

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Getting ready for Burning Man

It's that time again. Burning Man is August 29-September 5. Whether you're going or not, take a few minutes to learn from Halcyon's lesson on "gifting":

"Gifting" - by Halcyon from Belief Buffet on Vimeo.

Halcyon's Camp: http://pinkheartcamp.com/


Burning Man is the most important spiritual event of the year for me. This year tickets sold out. I bought my ticket the first day they went on sale. Many of the problem-makers get their tickets last minute, so I suspect this will be the best year ever. How exciting! I can't wait!!!

Saturday, August 20, 2011

Fertility = $$ (Stripper study)

There was a study in the United States which proves that strippers make more money when they are ovulating.
These statistics are average earnings based upon working a 5hr shift:
while on her period = $185
normal part of cycle = $260
during ovulation = $335

While money varies dramatically depending on what part of the country you are in, I do agree with this study. I have personally experienced a huge difference in income depending on what part of my cycle I am in.

Monday, August 15, 2011

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Wanna Motorboat?

LOL, I love being silly. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Let's play!   *wink*



Monday, June 6, 2011

Girls Watch Porn

I'm not ashamed to admit that I love porn!


My favorite kind of porn is homemade. A few of my friends run their own homemade porn paysites. I love watching friends, and I support the making of homemade porn, so this month I've joined a few of their sites:

Trixie Fontaine = www.tastytrixie.com. Not only is she a Trixie, she also has HUGE natural boobs, is blond, smart, and we share many of the same fetishes. Access to her site gets you into her tranny girlfriend's site too: www.deliats.com!!

Naughty Allie = www.naughtyallie.com All I can say is WOW!! While not a stripper, she could easily work at any club: huge boobs, flat stomach, long blond hair. She is extremely sexy and dirty, and is a real life swinger.

Vanilla DeVille = www.VanillaDeVille.com Another real life swinger. Vanilla has been featured in Playboy Magazine and is a porn star. Gorgeous brunette with the most amazing ass ever! Not to mention, she is a total sweetheart.


Homemade porn doesn't get any hotter than this!! If I don't post any blog updates for a while, you'll know why.... ;)

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Sex on the side

Just because someone is married, does that mean he or she should never have sex with anyone else again? Many would say yes, but I disagree. Marriage should be a beautiful symbiotic arrangement--not a prison sentence.



Men with young kids at home should strive to be the best dad possible by staying married and always keeping peace at home. Families require stability. Unless their wives are extremely open-minded, this means they are limited to a lifetime of monogamy or secret affairs.
For a married man to have a successful secret affair:

(1) He needs to have a job with varying hours. This allows plenty of time for a mistress without arousing suspicion.

(2) His mistress has to understand that he's married and be quiet when his wife calls. A husband not answering calls or refusing to talk is just plain dumb.

(3) He needs to only have safe sex or make sure that he and anyone he's having sex with has been tested for STDs.

(4) Never bring the mistress back to the family home. A wife would consider this the ultimate betrayal.

(5) Make sure the relationship is mutually beneficial. No drama--only fantasies, romance, and fun. The wife is the one he lives his daily life with. His mistress is his "secret get-a-way from reality" and he should spoil her generously.

(6) Hiring a professional call girl is the safest route. Wives often desire revenge against husbands who have other "relationships" on the side. Whereas, should he ever get caught, the wife is much more likely to forgive him for hiring a hooker.


Sometimes having extramarital affairs can enrich your marriage. Seriously. They remind you why you love your partner so much, and, by experiencing another, you can show that renewed sense of love when you get back home. The key here is to do it without risking your current relationship and lifestyle. This can be tricky.

Personally, I am polyamorous and am honest when I feel the need to go elsewhere. I also understand if a partner feels the need for variety. Nobody owns me and I don't own anyone else. Sadly, few people are able to be that honest within their marriages without their partner freaking out. :(

Friday, May 13, 2011

Gambling? VOIP? Privacy?

Were you an online gambler? Has your internet service provider blocked you from using Skype or another VOIP service? Do you live outside the United States yet want full access to Pandora, Youtube, and Netflix? There are ways around this.

The simplest way is to use a VPN. A VPN is a direct connection to another computer. By directly connecting to another computer first, you can then use the service you want in an area where it is still allowed. How does this work? By using an IP address which is based in a country which allows the service you wish to use, you get access. It's an easy solution.

I have been using a paid VPN service for several months. Since I travel worldwide, sometimes my VOIP service won't work. All I have to do is load up my VPN and "viola!" It works! Simple as can be and worth every penny. To learn more, click the banner below and choose which service best fits your specific needs. You'll be glad you did.

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Happy Mother's Day

Is it more important for your children to fit your ideal "mold" or to be expressive people who are happy with themselves? As adults, do you still want to control their lives or trust them to make their own choices?

This video with Halcyon and his mother is perfect for Mother's Day:

Conversation with Mom from Belief Buffet on Vimeo.



If it wasn't for our parents (and grandparents), we wouldn't be the people we are today. Everybody grows up in different households. My parents are open-minded, tolerant, and understanding hippies--and taught me to be the same. I love that about them. Happy Mother's Day, Mom! I love you.

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Meant to be single?

When I find a man I like enough to date, I can be very flirty and aggressive. Some men are suspicious and worry when it doesn't take a lot of work to win a woman over that she must not be worthy of being with. Either that, or they have such low self-esteem that they can't believe a beautiful woman truly likes them for them. Very strange. Luckily, since I don't want to be with a man so suspicious or with low-self esteem, my aggressive style helps to weed them out. :)

I am me, upfront, honest, and go after what I want in life. If a man doesn't have these same qualities, we probably won't be compatible. I certainly don't want to waste my time on someone who isn't totally into me. Why is it that people generally want to have to fight to win their partners? The way I look at it...if I have to convince someone to like me, we are not meant to be--and I move on.

Often I wonder if I am meant to be single. I'm not anti-relationship; I am picky. Trying to date is often too much drama and I hate drama. If I'm going to spend my time with someone, he needs to be worth it for me. I am not one of those women who hops into one relationship right after the last. During the past 10 years, I have been single for five, in serious relationships for four, and in an open relationship for one.

If my fuck buddy were local, I doubt I would try to date at all. While I don't mind being alone, my 10-speed purple vibrator gets old...