3 Simple Rules in Life

Quitting stripping

If you truly want to quit stripping, follow these instructions:

Figure out how much money you need to survive without any luxuries. This means rent/utilities/groceries/car only. No eating out, no drugs or alcohol, no shopping for items other than the most basic essentials. This bare-bones amount will be much less than you expected. Save up enough for 6 months.

To prevent spending your savings, pre-pay your rent/mortgage and car payments, purchase money orders for future utility payments, and buy gift cards for the rest (gas, groceries, etc). Once you have done this, quit stripping completely (no part-time) and find a "normal" job that will cover your most basic expenses. The buffer you have saved up will be "insurance" to keep you from stressing out during the transition period. Try not to rely on any of the buffer money, but if you need to that is why it's there. Within a few months you should be adjusted to the difference in money and living a happy non-stripper life!

Seeing how easily money comes to others makes it more difficult to live poor. Maintaining your stripper friendships could tempt you back into the life...same with having drug/alcohol/shopping addictions. If you are serious about quitting, be prepared to give all of these things up.


Mental health is worth more than anything you can buy. If you're doing something that you feel is betraying yourself--no matter what it is--get out!


Why I quit stripping
Since I love being part of the sex industry, my reasons were very different: (1) the excitement was fading, & (2) I began dating.

Back in 2004, I quit a six-figure job to become a stripper. To say I was "dancing" wouldn't be accurate because, even though I incorporated dance moves, men only paid because my clothes came off too. It was a fantasy come true for me and I really enjoyed myself. When it became more work than fun, I stopped and went back to the mainstream world.

Stripping was never "just a job" for me; I got off on it. Therefore, ethically it felt inappropriate for me to continue while involved with someone. Both stripping and relationships are too personal for me to compartmentalize.

I know I am different than most women. My motivations, opportunities, my rationale... However, it's still difficult for me to understand how a woman could subject herself to this field if she doesn't enjoy it. Yes, the earning potential can be high--but for those who don't find it pleasurable, the skin industry messes them up. I've seen too many good people destroy themselves for money.

Lots of people find my blog from "how to quit stripping" internet searches. Assuming these are strippers who hate their jobs, feel trapped, and desperately want to find a way out, than this blog offers the solution. All it requires is the desire to change your life and the tenacity to follow through.

Goal setting for the new year

Hugnation is always very "feel good" and incredibly positive.
Today I sat in on a session about goal setting.     :)

1) Avoid goals that cause you stress.
2) Go towards things you want--not away from those you don't.
3) Make things present tense.
4) Make sure it's something you believe can happen.
5) Include things you are already doing.
6) Make sure it feels good.
7) Align your goals with your higher self.
8) Let go of your attachments.

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Take a few moments with Halcyon to recalibrate and remember that the world would far rather hug you than hurt you.

Merry Christmas!

The Voice Of Knowledge

The Voice Of Knowledge is the third book in a series by Don Miguel Ruiz. I'm finally getting around to reading it. :)

Here are some quotes:

"One little lie can be very contagious, spreading its seeds from person to person when we share it with others."

"The meaning of the word sin is 'to go against.' Everything that we say, everything that we do against ourselves is a sin."

"The result of believing in truth is goodness, love, happiness. When you live your life in truth, you feel good, and your life is wonderful. ... Believing in lies creates all the injustice, all of the violence and abuse, all of the suffering, not only in society but also in the individual."

"If you have no doubt about what you believe, then for you it is truth, even though it may be a lie."

"It's not important to be right or make others wrong. You know whatever they believe is just their point of view. It has nothing to do with you."

"And if I'm with somebody who tells me how good I am, that person can manipulate my life so easily because I need that recognition."

"I have an image of myself that I believe when I'm all alone, and I project different images around other people, depending on what I want them to believe about me."

"When we discover we are not what we believe we are, the foundation of our entire reality begins to collapse."

"You project what you want me to believe about you, and I modify it depending on what I believe. Now I am sure that you are what I believe you are. I might say, 'I know you,' when the truth is that I don't know you at all. I only know the story I create about you."

"We have a tendency to distort everything we perceive to make it agree with what we already believe; we 'fix it' to make it agree with our lies."

The first two books-- The Four Agreements and The Mastery of Love--are both excellent. This box set is the most valuable set of books I own for improving one's self and mastering a healthy view on relationships.

If you're ready to buy the three-book box set, instead of going to a bookstore, you can save over $20 by purchasing them as a package through this link!!