If you truly want to quit stripping, follow these instructions:
Figure out how much money you need to survive without any luxuries. This means rent/utilities/groceries/car only. No eating out, no drugs or alcohol, no shopping for items other than the most basic essentials. This bare-bones amount will be much less than you expected. Save up enough for 6 months.
To prevent spending your savings, pre-pay your rent/mortgage and car payments, purchase money orders for future utility payments, and buy gift cards for the rest (gas, groceries, etc). Once you have done this, quit stripping completely (no part-time) and find a "normal" job that will cover your most basic expenses. The buffer you have saved up will be "insurance" to keep you from stressing out during the transition period. Try not to rely on any of the buffer money, but if you need to that is why it's there. Within a few months you should be adjusted to the difference in money and living a happy non-stripper life!
Seeing how easily money comes to others makes it more difficult to live poor. Maintaining your stripper friendships could tempt you back into the life...same with having drug/alcohol/shopping addictions. If you are serious about quitting, be prepared to give all of these things up.
Mental health is worth more than anything you can buy. If you're doing something that you feel is betraying yourself--no matter what it is--get out!
Why I quit stripping
Since I love being part of the sex industry, my reasons were very different: (1) the excitement was fading, & (2) I began dating.
Back in 2004, I quit a six-figure job to become a stripper. To say I was "dancing" wouldn't be accurate because, even though I incorporated dance moves, men only paid because my clothes came off too. It was a fantasy come true for me and I really enjoyed myself. When it became more work than fun, I stopped and went back to the mainstream world.
Stripping was never "just a job" for me; I got off on it. Therefore, ethically it felt inappropriate for me to continue while involved with someone. Both stripping and relationships are too personal for me to compartmentalize.
I know I am different than most women. My motivations, opportunities, my rationale... However, it's still difficult for me to understand how a woman could subject herself to this field if she doesn't enjoy it. Yes, the earning potential can be high--but for those who don't find it pleasurable, the skin industry messes them up. I've seen too many good people destroy themselves for money.
Lots of people find my blog from "how to quit stripping" internet searches. Assuming these are strippers who hate their jobs, feel trapped, and desperately want to find a way out, than this blog offers the solution. All it requires is the desire to change your life and the tenacity to follow through.
6 comments:
Congrats on the new relationship.
Hopefully this doesn't mean we will not have the Fentons run.
Happy New Year
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Thank you! A little piece of light just shined!
Yeah! I am so happy that my post is reaching those who need it. Thank you for commenting.
i was searching because of a relationship that is failing , my gf is a stripper and thats the only life shes known since she was 17 and shes 27 now. we are on the brink of never speaking again...the only reason we even have anything left to hold onto is because i put forth effort. thank you for this blg.
I'm a stripper and haven't been one for very long and I was driven to the idea because I have been unemployed for a month and although I've applied to jobs I haven't recieved a call back and having bills that need to be paid on certain times I went in as a stripper but I want to get out before my boyfriend and my family finds out what I'm doing what would you recommend I do to get out after I save a little bit of money? I want to get out asap but still have enough time to save money until I find another job.
Jessica: I am sorry that you are stuck in a job that you do not like. Stripping money and lifestyle can be addictive so it is smart that you are already looking for a way out. My same advise that I gave at the beginning of my post holds true. Figure out how to pay everything for 6 months and buy the gift cards and money orders. Then you can quit and survive on normal pay. The normal pay will be tough to pay your bills, but do your best and only use the money orders when absolutely necessary.
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